I got married before Pinterest was really a thing. And I have to admit that I’m pretty happy about that. I could see myself falling down the DIY rabbit hole and never making my way to the alter.
There’s also plenty I coulda-shoulda-woulda about my wedding day, but I’m pretty damn lucky that almost nine years later, I’m still pleased with the partner I picked.
If I could go back in time, here are five things I would’ve done differently for our wedding:
- Mike would’ve bought a really well-made, tailored suit. Instead we cheaped out and his attire didn’t fit him well then and it doesn’t fit him at all now. (We recently invested in a nice suit for him and he looks so great in it — makes me want to marry him all over again a little bit).
- I would’ve picked a colour other than brown. We got married at a place called Chocolate Lake and I think I took that theme too far. And I wouldn’t have tortured my friends with the brown dresses that I swore they’d definitely wear again (seriously? what was I thinking?).
- I wouldn’t have worried about having the same number of bridesmaids to match the groomsmen or what the etiquette is of who is invited to what (when you’re buying dinner for 100 people, what’s 10 or 20 more?) or having cheesy favours for people to ultimately toss in the garbage in their hotel rooms. I would’ve focused more on the food, family and friends and the party.
- I would’ve put more priority in photography, videography and the DJ. We were very lucky to have Mike’s university band play a set, but the DJ wasn’t stellar. Also, I wish I had more candid photos and video of the day (this was before we captured every single second on our cellphones) because only nine years later, the details are already kinda fuzzy.
- Why was I nervous? I’m not sure I’ve been more certain about another other decision, before or after that day. Marrying Mike was one of the easiest and best choices of my life. I wish I could go back and experience that day again only to replace my misguided anxiousness about the event with excitement for the days that would follow.